Getting ready for the party

In the swirl of activities surrounding any pre-wedding party, make sure the focus stays on the meaning of the event....plan a toast to your partner and offer a wishing-well book or bowl where guests can write their congratulations to you. You'll flip through this happy-notes book often as the hectic planning months come at you, when you get cranky, when the plans become all Too Much. Those frustrations are fleeting when you take a look at the one you love, and all the rest falls away. It becomes about the two of you again.